Dating Advice from The Point
Thu, 08/09/2012 - 3:56pm -- admin
High school can be a hard time. You are trying to figure out who you are and what you want to do with your life.
You’re trying to make friends, keep your grades up, stay out of trouble and then there’s dating and sex.
Oddly enough, dating and sex can potentially derail all your other high school goals.
Here’s some advice:
One. Join a church youth group (like The Point), or get a good group of friends where you can meet boys and girls outside of dating. Dating might be one of the worst ways to get to know the opposite sex as – especially in high school – we can often act fake and put on a front when we are dating. If you want to get to know somebody, get to know them in a group … you’ll see the real person.
Two. Keep your priorities first. High school isn’t primarily for dating. It’s about learning who you are with God’s guidance, gaining good friends and preparing for life after college and an eventual career. Dating can sometimes take up so much of our emotional energy and time that we lose focus on the real goals of high school. Keep dating secondary to your priorities.
Three. Sex in dating comes with baggage. Sex is an emotional thing, especially for girls. For guys, sex can become a consuming pursuit and when it becomes something that a guy is thinking about all the time, you might push girls into it. Guys can become abusive and girls can sometimes be abused.
Four. Guys and girls see sex differently in dating. For guys, sex and making out is probably one of the first things on their mind. For girls, sex is something they do for affection from their boyfriend. Guys want it; girls will give it to keep their guy. The bottom line for sex is this: it’s best done in a very committed relationship. And that very committed relationship is marriage.
Five. Dating relationships in high school rarely last. While they can be fun for a while, they usually end in tears and heartbreak. They usually end because you don’t know who are and what you really want. Learn who you are and what you want in life and then you’ll know who you want in a dating partner.
The bottom line is this: High school can be one of the best experiences ever. Use it to make friends and learn about yourself. And most of all use high school to serve God.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.” -- Proverbs 3:5 - 6
You’re trying to make friends, keep your grades up, stay out of trouble and then there’s dating and sex.
Oddly enough, dating and sex can potentially derail all your other high school goals.
Here’s some advice:
One. Join a church youth group (like The Point), or get a good group of friends where you can meet boys and girls outside of dating. Dating might be one of the worst ways to get to know the opposite sex as – especially in high school – we can often act fake and put on a front when we are dating. If you want to get to know somebody, get to know them in a group … you’ll see the real person.
Two. Keep your priorities first. High school isn’t primarily for dating. It’s about learning who you are with God’s guidance, gaining good friends and preparing for life after college and an eventual career. Dating can sometimes take up so much of our emotional energy and time that we lose focus on the real goals of high school. Keep dating secondary to your priorities. Three. Sex in dating comes with baggage. Sex is an emotional thing, especially for girls. For guys, sex can become a consuming pursuit and when it becomes something that a guy is thinking about all the time, you might push girls into it. Guys can become abusive and girls can sometimes be abused.
Four. Guys and girls see sex differently in dating. For guys, sex and making out is probably one of the first things on their mind. For girls, sex is something they do for affection from their boyfriend. Guys want it; girls will give it to keep their guy. The bottom line for sex is this: it’s best done in a very committed relationship. And that very committed relationship is marriage.
Five. Dating relationships in high school rarely last. While they can be fun for a while, they usually end in tears and heartbreak. They usually end because you don’t know who are and what you really want. Learn who you are and what you want in life and then you’ll know who you want in a dating partner.
The bottom line is this: High school can be one of the best experiences ever. Use it to make friends and learn about yourself. And most of all use high school to serve God.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.” -- Proverbs 3:5 - 6